Explanations

I was chatting with my friend the other day and he mentioned something that made me think really hard.

Explanations are UNNECESSARY.

Friends who believe you do not need it while
People who do not believe you will not accept it.

Something worth pondering. Haha.

Friendship isn't always a sunny side up.

I used to believe adamantly that friendship will always remain the same even if tested through time, trials, challenges and distance. I still believe it though, with just a few exceptions here and there.

I learnt that sometimes, no matter how hard we are trying to hold to one, trying hard to keep it that way, the truth is that certain friendships will never be the same again. It is not that you are not considered a friend anymore; I think it's more like we outgrew each other.

We should accept it that many things are not and will not be the same like before. The amount of time you hang out together, the amount of time you spend on the phone, the number of sms-es and even the topic that you both discussed. It will not be the same.

My friend once told me that a friendship should not be measured using this measurement criteria. The amount of time or sms-es you spend do not equate to the status of one's friendship. More often than not, it is the different ways we have acquired to express our friendship.

I think I am starting to understand that. The important thing is not to compare and to "kira" so much. Thank God for what you have and do not complain. Do your best to be a friend. Love one another. Give freely and do not expect anything in return.

Move on.

A Case of Misunderstanding

I was attending a wedding dedication this afternoon and was seated among the youth somewhere in the middle of the hall.

Halfway through, a friend of mine suddenly appeared next to me, signalling that he wanted to seat next to me. The problem was that i was seated at the far right of the row and there was no more seat next to me. In order not to create attention, I quickly asked Yvonne who was next to me to move a seat to the left to make way for this friend of mine. As the result everyone in that row had to move a seat to the left. Pai Seh.

But I was quite happy. I was thinking to myself that "Wow. My friend really wanted to seat with me and spend time with me." I was encouraged.

But, in less than 5 minutes, he asked to change seat again, and this time he asked another friend who seated a row behind me to change seat with him. I was a bit puzzled. The last row was already full with other youths.

Heck. It just dawned that he wanted to sit next to me so that he can get one seat to swap with the guy at the row behind me, so that he could help Rachel to write songs for Father's Day. Haha. And I was thinking about how blessed i am to have such a caring friend at the moment. (not that he is not) Haha. Just that moment.

Anyway, it's not his fault anyway la. I dont blame him. It was just a funny case of misunderstanding.